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GH-39390: [C++] Thirdparty: bump default zlib to 1.3 (#39391)



### Rationale for this change

This patch bump default zlib to 1.3 (currently we're default using 1.2.13 as default). 1.3 includes some bugfixes.

### What changes are included in this PR?

Update vendor in arrow

### Are these changes tested?

Maybe we already has tests?

### Are there any user-facing changes?

no

* Closes: #39390

Authored-by: mwish <maplewish117@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: mwish <maplewish117@gmail.com>