onnxruntime

ExecutionProvider API refactor - move allocator from EP level to SessionState level and indexed by OrtDevice (#15833)

### Description
This PR is to refactor ExecutionProvider API for memory management,
which is to move allocators from EP level to SessionState level and
indexed by OrtDevice



### Motivation and Context
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This PR is to refactor ExecutionProvider API for memory management,
which is to move allocators from EP level to SessionState level and
indexed by OrtDevice. By this change, EP level will shift the burden of
maintaining allocators, which will be user friendly for EP developers

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Co-authored-by: Lei Cao <leca@microsoft.com@orttrainingdev8.d32nl1ml4oruzj4qz3bqlggovf.px.internal.cloudapp.net>