onnxruntime

Resize and EP specific transpose optimization updates (#17664)

### Description
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- Treat Resize as layout sensitive by default
- whilst the ONNX spec does not specify a layout, EPs tend to implement
only one
- add second usage in L2 of TransposeOptimizer to plugin the ability to
push a Transpose through a Resize assigned to the CPU EP
- Allow EP specific logic for changes the ops considered to be layout
sensitive to be plugged in
  - expected usage is for #17200 


### Motivation and Context
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Finish simplifying/clarifying transpose optimization and layout
transformation that was proposed in #15552. This PR along with #17618
should complete the changes.

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Co-authored-by: Edward Chen <18449977+edgchen1@users.noreply.github.com>