onnxruntime

cuda graph enhancement (#19636)

### Description
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1. add a config key in run_options to control cuda graph in runtime.
2. enhance cuda graph class to support mutiple graph saving and
retrieving in one ORT session
3. provide model modification/inference example on Phi2
4. benchmark shows an average of 13% latency reduction in token
generation.



limitation: TRT ep and ROCM ep hasn't applied this feature. we can
revisit this in the future.

### Motivation and Context
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