onnxruntime

Improve cache hit rate in windows build (#15538)

### Description
1.  Update /Zi to /Z7 in abseil project while using cache
2.  Skip target_precompile_headers while using cache


### Motivation and Context
There're about 1/4 uncacheable calls in Windows GPU compilation with
cache.
```
Uncacheable calls:                   441 / 1641 (26.87%)
  Could not use precompiled header:  361 /  441 (81.86%)
  Preprocessing failed:                1 /  441 ( 0.23%)
  Unsupported compiler option:        79 /  441 (17.91%)
```

https://dev.azure.com/onnxruntime/onnxruntime/_build/results?buildId=961916&view=logs&j=5076e696-f193-5f12-2d8a-703dda41a79b&t=9b927034-e3ef-5e25-c6df-387bc37acd63&l=21

The root cause of `Unsupported compiler option` is that /Zi in Abseil
isn't updated to /Z7.
The root cause of `Could not use precompiled header` is the
`target_precompile_headers` creates cmake_pch.pch every time and it's
hash value is changed too.

### Result
It could reduce compilation time by another 20%. 
For example:
It took 16m43 in CUDA training compilation on Windows.
It takes 13m32 after the change.

https://dev.azure.com/onnxruntime/onnxruntime/_build/results?buildId=964002&view=logs&s=959c6b43-5937-53e5-5f36-e53cb0249117


### N.B.
In winml project, it's using own target_precompile**d**_header
https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/blob/main/cmake/precompiled_header.cmake.
Just let it be.