onnxruntime

Change DML GPU pool in Windows GPU workflow use Visual Studio 2022 (#16784)

### Description
1. use the pool with VS2022
2. upgrade System.Memory to 4.5.5


### Motivation and Context
Solve the build error while using VS2022:
`[Failure] Msbuild failed when processing the file
'D:\a\_work\1\s\csharp\src\Microsoft.ML.OnnxRuntime\Microsoft.ML.OnnxRuntime.csproj'
with message: Method not found: 'System.ReadOnlySpan`1<Char>
Microsoft.IO.Path.GetFileName(System.ReadOnlySpan`1<Char>)'`

Ref:
https://stackoverflow.com/questions/73399777/azure-build-failing-due-to-method-not-found-system-readonlyspan1char-micros