onnxruntime

Pre-link when creating static library for apple framework (#18241)

### Description
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Pre-link with `ld -r` to apply symbol visibility when the static library
is created to replicate XCode's Single Object Pre-link.

Current builds set the visibility flags but that doesn't get applied
until the static library is linked into something else, which can be too
late. Pre-linking fixes this.

The pre-link uses the .o files from the ORT static libraries and the .a
files from external libraries. This combination limits the symbols
included from the .a files to things required by the ORT .o files.

In order to minimize changes elsewhere in the build we extract the .o
files from the ORT static libraries using `ar -x`.

Re-ordered the pieces use to build the Apple framework to make it a
little more readable.
Fixed a couple of misc issues with missing symbols from the minimal
build that show up when pre-linking is applied.

### Motivation and Context
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Will hopefully address #17722