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GH-43412: [Java][Benchmarking] Use JDK_JAVA_OPTIONS for JVM arguments (#43411)

### Rationale for this change

Java options are not getting picked up properly in archery.

### What changes are included in this PR?

* Use JDK_JAVA_OPTIONS instead of _JAVA_OPTIONS env var.

### Are these changes tested?

Test via benchmark bot (ursabot)

### Are there any user-facing changes?

No
* GitHub Issue: #43412

Authored-by: Dane Pitkin <dpitkin@apache.org>
Signed-off-by: Dane Pitkin <dpitkin@apache.org>