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ARROW-11212: [Packaging][Python] Use vcpkg as dependency source for manylinux and windows wheels

Also resolves:
- ARROW-11213: [Packaging][Python] Dockerize wheel building on windows
- ARROW-11215: [CI] Use named volumes by default for caching in docker-compose
- ARROW-11231: [Python][Packaging] Enable mimalloc in wheels

Main features:
- dockerize windows builds
- use vcpkg as the dependency source where we can explicitly pin a working version without worrying about the drag of build environment over time

Potential follow-up:
- use vcpkg on macos as well

cc @kou @xhochy

## Manylinux testing

Should be straightforward (I'm going to shared pre-built images for quicker testing).

## Windows testing

Only windows host is able to run windows containers. I'm virtualizing windows on macOS (should work on linux as well) using virtualbox:

```bash
git clone https://github.com/StefanScherer/windows-docker-machine
cd windows-docker-machine
# grant more resources in the vagrantfile under the virtualbox section (I use 8 cores and 16GiB of ram)
vagrant up --provider virtualbox 2019-box
docker context ls
docker context use 2019-box
docker image ls
```

Now docker should use the windows docker daemon.

```bash
pip install -e dev/archery[docker]
# the volumes defined in the docker compose file should be commented out and pass arrow's source explicitly
# this is required because compose is being executed on a unix host and the directory is mounted through a virtual machine
PYTHON=3.6 archery docker run --no-pull --using-docker-cli -v C:$(pwd):C:/arrow python-wheel-windows-vs2017 cmd.exe
# then within the container execute a build or do other interactive things
arrow\ci\scripts\python_wheel_windown_build.bat
```

Closes #9096 from kszucs/wheel-vcpkg

Lead-authored-by: Krisztián Szűcs <szucs.krisztian@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: Sutou Kouhei <kou@clear-code.com>
Co-authored-by: Antoine Pitrou <antoine@python.org>
Signed-off-by: Sutou Kouhei <kou@clear-code.com>