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GH-35053: [Java] Fix MemoryUtil to support Java 21 (#36370)

### Rationale for this change

Java 21 switched `DirectByteBuffer(long,int)` constructor to `DirectByteBuffer(long,long)` via https://github.com/openjdk/jdk/commit/a56598f5a534cc9223367e7faa8433ea38661db9
 
### What changes are included in this PR?
In order to avoid `NoSuchMethodException` error in Java 21 environment, this PR aims to choose one of constructors based on the Java version like https://github.com/netty/netty/pull/13366 .
 
### Are these changes tested?

```
$ java -version
openjdk version "21-ea" 2023-09-19
OpenJDK Runtime Environment (build 21-ea+28-2377)
OpenJDK 64-Bit Server VM (build 21-ea+28-2377, mixed mode, sharing)

$ cd java

$ mvn clean package --am --pl memory/memory-core
...
[INFO] Apache Arrow Java Root POM ......................... SUCCESS [  5.693 s]
[INFO] Arrow Memory ....................................... SUCCESS [  1.703 s]
[INFO] Arrow Memory - Core ................................ SUCCESS [  7.050 s]
[INFO] ------------------------------------------------------------------------
[INFO] BUILD SUCCESS
[INFO] ------------------------------------------------------------------------
[INFO] Total time:  14.630 s
[INFO] Finished at: 2023-06-28T20:43:29-07:00
[INFO] ------------------------------------------------------------------------
```

### Are there any user-facing changes?

* Closes: #35053

Authored-by: Dongjoon Hyun <dongjoon@apache.org>
Signed-off-by: David Li <li.davidm96@gmail.com>