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GH-39823: [C++] Allow building cpp/src/arrow/**/*.cc without waiting bundled libraries (#39824)

### Rationale for this change

If we can build most of `cpp/src/arrow/**/*.cc` before all bundled libraries are built, we can reduce build time. 

### What changes are included in this PR?

* Remove the `toolchain` internal CMake target
* Remove `ARROW_SHARED_LINK_LIBS`
* Remove `ARROW_STATIC_LINK_LIBS`
* Move the following variables to `cpp/src/arrow/CMakeLists.txt`
  * `ARROW_SHARED_PRIVATE_LINK_LIBS`
  * `ARROW_SHARED_INSTALL_INTERFACE_LIBS`
  * `ARROW_STATIC_INSTALL_INTERFACE_LIBS`
  * `ARROW_TEST_LINK_TOOLCHAIN`
  * `ARROW_TEST_SHARED_LINK_LIBS`
  * `ARROW_TEST_STATIC_LINK_LIBS`
  * `ARROW_SYSTEM_LINK_LIBS`
* Add internal `OBJECT` libraries that have minimal dependencies
* Remove unused `cpp/src/arrow/util/benchmark_main.cc`

### Are these changes tested?

Yes.

### Are there any user-facing changes?

No.
* Closes: #39823
* GitHub Issue: #39823

Authored-by: Sutou Kouhei <kou@clear-code.com>
Signed-off-by: Sutou Kouhei <kou@clear-code.com>