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GH-35658: [Packaging] Sync conda recipes with feedstocks (#35637)

Corresponds to https://github.com/conda-forge/arrow-cpp-feedstock/pull/1053 for pyarrow (one failing test on our infra that needs debugging), as well as the state of the feedstock for r-arrow after https://github.com/conda-forge/r-arrow-feedstock/pull/65
* Closes: #35658

Authored-by: H. Vetinari <h.vetinari@gmx.com>
Signed-off-by: Sutou Kouhei <kou@clear-code.com>