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GH-41547: [C++] Thirdparty: Upgrade xsimd to 13.0.0 (#41548)



### Rationale for this change

Arrow now uses xsimd 9.0.1, currently, some conversion for batch is now support in neon, see: https://github.com/apache/arrow/pull/40335#issuecomment-1983609146 . So we can upgrading it.

The xsimd currently released 13.0.0, see: https://github.com/xtensor-stack/xsimd/issues/1015

For conan, seems community is updating it: https://github.com/conan-io/conan-center-index/pull/23859 . Maybe we can wait for a while

### What changes are included in this PR?

Update xsimd to 13.0.0

### Are these changes tested?

Tested by existing test code

### Are there any user-facing changes?

no

* GitHub Issue: #41547

Authored-by: mwish <maplewish117@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Sutou Kouhei <kou@clear-code.com>