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GH-44564: [Java][FlightSQL] Fix native libraries relocation (#44565)

### Rationale for this change

Prefix used by native libraries shipped in the JDBC driver do not match the prefix used by Netty `NativeLibraryLoader` class, preventing them to be detected and loaded.

### What changes are included in this PR?

Change the prefix of the libraries and add a integration test to verify the libraries are loaded

Also exclude several group of data which are not properly relocated and may cause conflict with existing classpath.

### Are these changes tested?

Yes, new test added for checking the native library loader

### Are there any user-facing changes?

No

* GitHub Issue: #44564

Authored-by: Laurent Goujon <laurent@apache.org>
Signed-off-by: David Li <li.davidm96@gmail.com>