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ARROW-7862: [R] Linux installation should run quieter by default

Installation now looks like this, instead of printing everything from configure/cmake/make for every project:

```shell
# R CMD INSTALL .
* installing to library ‘/opt/R/3.6.2/lib/R/library’
* installing *source* package ‘arrow’ ...
** using staged installation
*** Found local C++ source
*** Building C++ libraries
**** cmake
**** m4
**** flex
**** bison
**** arrow
PKG_CFLAGS=-I/arrow/r/libarrow/arrow-0.16.0.9000/include  -DARROW_R_WITH_ARROW
PKG_LIBS=-L/arrow/r/libarrow/arrow-0.16.0.9000/lib -larrow_dataset -lparquet -larrow -lthrift -lsnappy -lz -lzstd -llz4 -lbrotlidec-static -lbrotlienc-static -lbrotlicommon-static -lboost_filesystem -lboost_regex -lboost_system -ljemalloc_pic
** libs
g++ -std=gnu++11 -I"/opt/R/3.6.2/lib/R/include" -DNDEBUG -I/arrow/r/libarrow/arrow-0.16.0.9000/include  -DARROW_R_WITH_ARROW -I"/opt/R/3.6.2/lib/R/library/Rcpp/include" -I/usr/local/include  -fpic  -g -O2  -c array.cpp -o array.o
...
```

This also fixes an issue where the build wrote to the user's home directory (in `~/.cmake/packages`), which CRAN checks flagged as problematic.

Closes #6429 from nealrichardson/r-linux-again and squashes the following commits:

af6ced3e4 <Neal Richardson> Make all boolean configure vars case insensitive
605b0184d <Neal Richardson> RapidJSON needs EP_COMMON_CMAKE_ARGS
62ddeff04 <Neal Richardson> CMAKE_FIND_PACKAGE_NO_PACKAGE_REGISTRY
a3ab4b2f3 <Neal Richardson> Allow passing EP_COMMON_CMAKE_ARGS through to external projects, and wire up CMAKE_EXPORT_NO_PACKAGE_REGISTRY specially
3fe76a80c <Neal Richardson> -DCMAKE_EXPORT_NO_PACKAGE_REGISTRY=ON
1a016fa62 <Neal Richardson> Print more about what's in ~/.cmake/packages
b5a666514 <Neal Richardson> Whitespace
adab7070e <Neal Richardson> Move home dir check
716d5269f <Neal Richardson> Make sure we didn't write to home dir
5cbe4e659 <Neal Richardson> Revert some env var moving
08a672be8 <Neal Richardson> Be quiet
df6a9302b <Neal Richardson> Make it quieter
e14a30ac2 <Neal Richardson> File is here?
a4b40a005 <Neal Richardson> look for the install logs more
52ac20d22 <Neal Richardson> Try to find the install logs
92b3f3112 <Neal Richardson> Progress
2c908c2b0 <Neal Richardson> Move this env var setting
2b094bfc0 <Neal Richardson> Allow setting ARROW_HOME for local cpp in R Linux installation
df008b2c4 <Neal Richardson> Set env vars here
b22a4644e <Neal Richardson> Try to reproduce non-portable flags failure

Authored-by: Neal Richardson <neal.p.richardson@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Neal Richardson <neal.p.richardson@gmail.com>