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GH-36696: [Go] Improve the MapOf and ListOf helpers (#36697)



### Rationale for this change

The aim is to improve the MapOf and ListOf helper functions without breaking anything. I have added a `ListOfWithName` which matches the `MapOf` function in that it takes a name, rather than deriving it from the elements name, which should actually be `element`.

This just seems clearer to me as an interface, and makes construction a bit more obvious.

### What changes are included in this PR?

* Removed references to panics I can't find
* Updated error messages for list and map to be clearer with validation errors
* Added a ListOfWithName to provide a clearer matching method to MapOf which takes a name

Closes #36696 

### Are these changes tested?

Yes, I added a test for the new `ListOfWithName` function.

### Are there any user-facing changes?

* Closes: #36696

Authored-by: Mark Wolfe <mark@wolfe.id.au>
Signed-off-by: Matt Topol <zotthewizard@gmail.com>