onnxruntime

DML EP return clearer error message when users attempt to use software adapter (#14273)

### Description
The DML EP provider factory verifies the adapter id is a real GPU (not
some software emulation like WARP which would be quite slow or basic
display driver which lacks D3D compute ability), but the automated tests
sometimes erratically get run on a variety of ADO cloud machines that
lack a GPU or are in a bad state such that Windows fell back to software
emulation. In such cases, you end up reaching the `!IsSoftwareAdapter`
check in the provider factory ([line
132](https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/blob/main/onnxruntime/core/providers/dml/dml_provider_factory.cc#L132))
and seeing in the pipeline logs E_INVALIDARG. Let's return a more
immediately enlightening error code like
ERROR_GRAPHICS_INVALID_DISPLAY_ADAPTER rather than just E_INVALIDARG.

### Motivation and Context
- *Why is this change required? What problem does it solve* Pipeline
noise.
- *If it fixes an open issue, please link to the issue here.* NA.