onnxruntime

Allow layer-wise recompute (#18566)

### Allow layer-wise recompute 

Early, we need users/developers to specify the subgraphs to recompute,
now we introduced a more user-friendly way to enable recompute for all
detected stashed activation recomputation subgraphs. This scarifies
getting the best configs while makes it easier to support user
requirements when they switches from PyTorch per-layer gradient
checkpoint to ORTModule.

`ORTMODULE_MEMORY_OPT_LEVEL` is introduced to control the usage, by
default, it is 0, e.g. `USER_SPECIFIED`, all subgraphs definedin
`ORTMODULE_MEMORY_OPT_CONFIG` will be recomputed. So this is compatible
to existing recompute usage in ORTModule integrated models.

Using `ORTMODULE_MEMORY_OPT_LEVEL=1`, we will enable all recompute plans
detected, so those configs in `ORTMODULE_MEMORY_OPT_CONFIG` will not be
respected any more.


Add Unit Tests using 3 layer blooms. 



https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/blob/pengwa/add_aggresive_recompute/docs/Memory_Optimizer.md