onnxruntime

Refactor the cost check used by the transpose optimizer  (#14690)

### Description
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Refactor the cost check used by the transpose optimizer to separate out
ORT specific logic.

Change the post-layout transform optimization to only skip the cost
check when moving the layout transform nodes around. Fall back to the
normal cost check for all other transpose nodes.

Cleanup some const correctness.

Refactor usage of ResizeHandler slightly so the clang-formatting is
nicer.

### Motivation and Context
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Address performance issue seen in SNPE model where a non-layout
transpose node was moved. See
https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/pull/14547 for more details.
Improve separation between generic transpose optimization code and any
ORT specific code.