onnxruntime

[CUDA] FusedMHARunnerFP16v2 thread-safe (#21420)

### Description
- [x] Rewrite FusedMHARunnerFP16v2 to make it thread-safe. 
- [x] Add multi-threading tests

Previously, the kernel parameters params is stored as a member of mha
runner, which means that different threads might change the params at
the same time and impacts the other threads.

For example, if batch_size and seq_len was changed by another thread to
larger values in setup(...), buffer overrun might happen in run(...)
because a kernel could read/write memory out of range of allocated
buffers.

In new implementation, I change the api and remove mutable member
variables to make it thread safe. Below is summary of change:

Before:
```
class FusedMHARunnerFP16v2::mhaImpl {
   void setup(int seq_len, int batch_size) {
      // change scalar params
   }

   void run(input, output) {
      // change params for input and output pointers
      // launch kernel using params
   }

   Fused_multihead_attention_params_v2 params; // mutable, not thread-safe
}
```

After:
```
class FusedMHARunnerFP16v2::FmhaImpl {
   void setup(int seq_len, int batch_size, Fused_multihead_attention_params_v2& params) {
      // change params
   }

   void run(params, input, output) {
      // change params with input and output pointers
      // launch kernel using params
   }
}
```

### Motivation and Context
https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/issues/18854
https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/issues/21413