onnxruntime

Avoid the lock for device stream impact the cpu build (#14131)

### Description
Introduce a runtime flag in SessionState about whether any EP in current
session using stream feature, if no, avoid trigger the lock. This will
avoid the impact to CPU build.

### Motivation and Context
Currently we use a lock in SessionState when retrieve device stream
collection, this is mainly for reusing the device stream for EP like GPU
eps, so it shouldn't impact the build which doesn't using stream
feature, like cpu build. Instead of play with build flags, this PR
introduce a runtime flag in SessionState to indicate whether current
session has any EP that using the stream feature. if no, we don't need
to trigger the lock.

Co-authored-by: Cheng Tang <chenta@microsoft.com@orttrainingdev9.d32nl1ml4oruzj4qz3bqlggovf.px.internal.cloudapp.net>