onnxruntime

Add extra requires for cuda/cudnn DLLs to onnxruntime-gpu python package (#23659)

### Description
Add extra requires for cuda/cudnn DLLs to onnxruntime-gpu python
package.

During building wheel, make sure to add cuda version parameters to build
command line like `--cuda_version 12.8`.

Note that we only add extra requires for cuda 12 for now. If a package
is built with cuda 11, no extra requires will be added.

Examples to install extra DLLs from wheel:
```
pip install onnxruntime_gpu-1.21.0-cp310-cp310-linux_x86_64.whl[cuda,cudnn]
```

If install cudnn DLLs but not cuda DLLs:
```
pip install onnxruntime_gpu-1.21.0-cp310-cp310-linux_x86_64.whl[cudnn]
```

Example section in METADATA file of dist-info:
```
Provides-Extra: cuda
Requires-Dist: nvidia-cuda-nvrtc-cu12~=12.0; extra == "cuda"
Requires-Dist: nvidia-cuda-runtime-cu12~=12.0; extra == "cuda"
Requires-Dist: nvidia-cufft-cu12~=11.0; extra == "cuda"
Requires-Dist: nvidia-curand-cu12~=10.0; extra == "cuda"
Provides-Extra: cudnn
Requires-Dist: nvidia-cudnn-cu12~=9.0; extra == "cudnn"
...
```

### Motivation and Context

Jian had a PR: https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/pull/22506. This
adds only part of the change. Extra change include updating the windows
gpu python packaging pipeline to pass cuda version to the build command
line.

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